Dear family and friends,
If I were going to re-invent myself as a social media influencer I would call myself the “moment collector.” I think it would be really neat if there was a site where someone digitally housed a collection of special moments that have "moved" people in meaningful ways. This occasionally happens on the television show America’s Got Talent (AGT). (And in most Hallmark commercials) If you want to experience goosebumps while watching someone have a moment, try googling Darci Lynne or Kodi Lee or Jane Marczewski (Nightbirde) on AGT and specifically look for their initial auditions. You can do the same with Susan Boyle on her initial Britain's Got Talent (BGT) audition. In fact, you can watch a judge have a moment (David Williams) on BGT when he watches the Flakefleet Primary School choir sing and dance to Don’t Stop Me Now. He has such a moment that I often cry right along with him.
I used to pray that God would bless each of my boys with just one special moment and while I hope they will have several over the course of their lifetime (if in fact they are paying attention,) I have noticed at least one for each of them so far that involved kicking a meaningful field goal when it needed to count (Alex) and watching Adam’s reaction as his name was called for a modeling award. In those moments each boy gained not only a memorable "moment" but some much needed confidence right when they really needed it. I think of those as moments with a bonus!
The super cool thing is that you don’t need to have a special talent to find yourself having a special moment. I’ve had several in fact and I have very little actual talent.
I had a moment when I experienced my first kiss, in high school, on a dance floor. That single moment traveled with me into the overnight hours as I replayed it over and over and over again.
I had a moment as I walked into a silent gymnasium illuminated only by candles held by my/our parents as we were in the middle of a Teens Encounter Christ event.
I had a moment when I found myself standing on a bridge over looking the river Seine in Paris when I was 18 years old and contemplating life.
I had a moment after I gave birth to Alex when James looked at me in utter disbelief and said “You are my hero!”
I had a moment when I was standing on the top deck of a Disney cruise ship and the captain navigated her into a glacier filled fjord and spun the ship around to the most majestic music I have ever heard.
I had yet another moment when James took his first steps after he broke his back.
I have a moment every single time I watch the coaches and athletes (usually in picture form) react at my nephew Brad’s grave when they are in my hometown for the BWMT. I got to have my own moments while there this year as I attended.
When you become an empty nester your moments change in ways that you were not expecting. You don’t have a choice really……it just happens. As your moments are changing you find yourself with extra time in your “headspace." This year I've been spending lots of time thinking about the future as compared to the past and present as I have known it. Both boys will be home for Christmas this year but I have to wonder how many more of those holidays I will have as they both grow and wander farther away from their original family nest. It’s the natural order of things I suppose, but it makes for some melancholy filled moments when you are a change and risk averse person such as myself.
Because I found myself in such a pensive mindset this year I had several “moments” when I was decorating for Christmas. Every Christmas from the first year they were born I've been giving the boys Christmas ornaments that somehow mark and in fact catalog each year of their growth in some meaningful way. I do the same for James and myself. This year I had many moments as I unboxed each ornament and relived all of our milestones thus far.
In our house we have a central family Christmas tree. We also each have a tree for our individual ornaments as well as ornament wreaths to display our collections.
I had several meaningful moments this year as I thought back to my own childhood.
I have ornaments marking the things I played with...
the television shows I watched.......(Not including numerous Wizard of Oz ornaments that I did not get out this year)
and the countless hours I spent at the roller skating rink as I was growing up.
ones that make me remember all the years of baking cookies for everyone.....
and one that makes me remember how grateful I 've been to host Christmas for so many years.
I have ornaments that remind me of the moments I spent traveling to new places and seeing new things.
Finally, no tree of mine would be complete with out this (if you know, you know).
He has some ornaments that cause us to pause and remember his parents.
He has a memorial ornament for his aunt Myrna.
He has a leg-lamp ornament marking his favorite holiday movie phrase "fra-gee-lay."
There's the year we got married........
and the year we celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary.
There are of course ornaments to remember the moments that the boys were born...
Here are some from the many years they played basketball, football, cross country and tennis.
Here are some of Alex as he grew and changed.......
Some of my favorite moments each year include un-boxing all of the boys’ (and my) homemade ornaments and decorations.
not to be outdone by the moment marking the night that James and Alex watched the Blues win their one and only Stanley Cup.
I also have ornaments that commemorate the boys' college choices and remember the moments of contemplation as those decisions were made.
James and I spent some meaningful moments together this year. We found ourselves sharing moments at the annual Mary Immaculate Sweetheart Dinner, in several theaters, at the lake, in Arkansas, in Florida and while visiting Adam at school.
I had a powerful moment when I realized that James now gets to teach in a school where it is okay to display a cross in the classroom.
I had a moment on Mother's Day when Alex gifted me a candle of his personality and spectrogram of him reciting the phrase "I love you."
The truth is, none of us really know how many moments we all have left together. I am spending some time this year writing individual letters to my family and long time faithful friends. I'm taking a moment to tell those important people that are still around how much they mean to me and what a meaningful place they have had in my life thus far .........because I have had the privilege of SO many wonderful moments with so many different but very important individuals. Because of them I have the ability to collect, cherish and reflect on so many meaningful moments across my life. For those moments and for this one, I am grateful.
My reality is that my life is as imperfect as it is messy. Some of my pictures here are blurry, the formatting is all off and my house is a conglomeration of memories with no real theme. We will never make it on a Christmas home tour of well placed decorations worthy of fancy magazine covers and in fact most of our surfaces are covered in dog hair. But that's okay. I'm so grateful for my collection of moments and look forward to the (God-willing) future additions. Please, please take a moment to let those people you love know just how special they are. None of us is promised tomorrow so please take a moment now and fill them in. If you are looking for me this Christmas, I will be at home with my two boys at least one more time. I will be at home, in fact, ........having a moment. Merry Christmas!